What Do You See When You Look At Me?

Tell me

What do you see when you look at me?

Flawless beauty?


An artist with tools?

Carefully crafting an image

To deflect

Or Cajole

Hiding my tears



Fledgling confidence


Tell me

What do you see when you look at me?

Shoulders slumped

Footsteps heavy


Slow and steady

Pressing my way






But still

Pressing my way

Never giving up

Because there is no other way

To give up is to die

To stay down is defeat


Let me tell you what I see

A sister

Too stubborn to give up


Too afraid to quit

Because she knows better than you


GOD is no respecter of person


Favor ain’t fair

A sister

That knows

Fortune favors the bold

Tell me

What do you see?


When Life Hands You Lemons…

We all know that proverbial phrase. It’s generally used to encourage those going through a difficult time. A couple of weeks ago, my eleven year old delivered his unique take on the phrase.

“When life hands you lemons, throw them back and demand chocolate!”

That was a typical “Deucie” response. We all laughed at him, but later I said to my husband, “I like his version better.”

In other words, why do we so easily accept the hand that we’re dealt? I like lemons. They’re okay. But I seriously love chocolate.

Now, we can get into the whole “Lemons are better for you” debate. I won’t go there. My argument is not in the nutritional value of said lemon, but in the spiritual approach to acquisition.

Yes, we do have to play the hand that we’re dealt, but what happens when you’re on friendly terms with the dealer. We all know that bad things happen to good people. We see it everyday. And yes, I am content in all things, “…for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content” (Phil. 4:11)

But I also know that “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits” (Pro. 18:21) So, I will stand on GOD’s word and declare to life that I much prefer chocolate to lemons.


Don’t do it!

The beginning of strife is like letting out water, so quit before the quarrel breaks out – Proverbs 17:14

Sometimes you just have to ‘Turn around and walk away’. And I know that’s difficult. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve literally walked away with ‘a bubble’. What’s ‘a bubble’?

When my boys where in kindergarten, their teacher would ask, “Where’s your bubble?” And their sweet little faces would inhale and puff their cheeks. They looked like a line of super cute chipmunks. But, they would all traipse down the hallways quietly.

Yes, sometimes I’ve literally filled my cheeks with air and walked away. Other times it was just a mental bubble, but it was a bubble nonetheless.

Life is short, and living in contention with those around you is draining. I personally abhor drama and strife. I try to stay as far away from it, and those that are harbingers of it, as I can. For me that type of environment and personality is toxic. I can literally feel it affecting me.

We have to realize that we are not going to agree with everyone. So stop trying. We are going to have different opinions because of where we were raised, how we were raised, by whom we were raised, and whom we associate with. And embarking on these argument sessions leads to endless loops of anger, frustration, and maybe even hatred. Arguing changes nothing. “There is nothing more powerful than a made-up mind.”

Walking away from drama, strife or contention doesn’t mean you’re weak. Walking away means you are intelligent, thoughtful, and insightful. We are called to love GOD and love others as we love ourselves. And guess what? Practice makes perfect.

“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.” — Martin Luther King, Jr.


Have Confidence in GOD and HIS WORD

Some people would say that “Having confidence in GOD” is the same thing as “Having Confidence in the WORD of GOD”. I beg to differ. I think that many people have confidence in knowing that there is a GOD and believing in GOD. But there are many folks that have trouble believing HIM for HIS WORD.

We all know and believe in GOD, but do we truly believe in HIS WORD. GOD and HIS WORD are one. In Psalm 138:2, it is said that HE holds or more specifically, HE magnifies HIS WORD above HIS NAME.

Let’s talk about having Confidence in GOD and HIS WORD.

It’s great to have self-confidence. Matter of fact, I believe in this day and age we MUST be self-confident. There are several strategies that we can use to “appear” self-confident.

– Dress Sharp
– Walk Faster
– Good Posture
– Have our own personal commercial
– Be Gracious
– Be Complimentary
– Speak Up
– Sit in the front row
– Work out

These all sound great, but where does all this new self-confidence get us? Does it get us fewer problems? Less confrontations? Fewer enemies? Greater wealth? What about greater fulfillment? It doesn’t give us anything but greater confidence in what we can do under our own strength. And I don’t know about you, but I know that life under my own power is dismal. Can someone say, “New Years’ Resolution?” Can someone say, “Failed diet?”

I look around at all of the sickness, disease, death and despair and wonder how someone could make it in this life without believing in a higher power. The mere belief that all of this is random is depressing to me.

My confidence in GOD comes from knowing, truly believing that GOD is always near and present. That HE’s in my corner and that things will work out for my good. Having confidence in GOD gives me the ultimate confidence. The perfect example of this is David. Keep this in mind: David’s life was not perfect. Some
scholars believe that this was written during different times in his life, Think mountain and valley experiences.

The LORD is my light and my salvation—
whom shall I fear?
The LORD is the stronghold of my life—
of whom shall I be afraid?
2 When the wicked advance against me
to devour me,
it is my enemies and my foes
who will stumble and fall.
3 Though an army besiege me,
my heart will not fear;
though war break out against me,
even then I will be confident.
4 One thing I ask from the LORD,
this only do I seek:
that I may dwell in the house of the LORD
all the days of my life,
to gaze on the beauty of the LORD
and to seek him in his temple.
5 For in the day of trouble
he will keep me safe in his dwelling;
he will hide me in the shelter of his sacred tent
and set me high upon a rock.
6 Then my head will be exalted
above the enemies who surround me;
at his sacred tent I will sacrifice with shouts of joy;
I will sing and make music to the LORD.
7 Hear my voice when I call, LORD;
be merciful to me and answer me.
8 My heart says of you, “Seek his face!”
Your face, LORD, I will seek.
9 Do not hide your face from me,
do not turn your servant away in anger;
you have been my helper.
Do not reject me or forsake me,
God my Savior.
10 Though my father and mother forsake me,
the LORD will receive me.
11 Teach me your way, LORD;
lead me in a straight path
because of my oppressors.
12 Do not turn me over to the desire of my foes,
for false witnesses rise up against me,
spouting malicious accusations.
13 I remain confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the LORD
in the land of the living.
14 Wait for the LORD;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the LORD.

Verses 1-6 may have been written when life was good, think of the slaying of Goliath. David was saying because YOU showed up in my past, I’m confident that YOU will show up in my future. Verses 7-12 may have been written when things had gotten progressively worse, think Saul. David is saying, LORD don’t turn
away from me. Not when I need you the most. I’m going through something right now and I know YOU’RE there, but I need YOU to speak to me right now. I need to hear YOUR voice. I need YOUR comfort. Don’t forget me in my time of need. David is saying that GOD I trust in YOU. I have confidence in YOU. (Numbers 23:19) I know YOU are not human, that YOU would lie, and that YOU are not a human being, that YOU would change YOUR mind. I know YOU will speak and act! I know YOU will promise and fulfill. This is the confidence that David retained in GOD.

Just like David we have to continually reinforce our confidence in GOD. Deut. 31:6 says Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Just like David we must continue to remind ourselves of what HE has done in our life, and also what HE did in Biblical times. Psalms 78:7 says That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments. And then once we remember HIS WORKs and HIS Commandments we should hide GOD’s word in our heart so that we might not sin against HIM. (Psalms 119:11)

But above all else, we must remember Romans 8:28, And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.

Examples of people having confidence in GOD and HIS Word.

Abraham and Sarah
I could go on and on.

But what about the people we don’t think about readily. Through these people we are able to see Romans 8:28 working.:

Rahab – a prostitute who had just “heard” about what their GOD had done. And she believed. She didn’t live through the signs in Egypt, she wasn’t miraculously fed and sheltered. She hadn’t seen or heard GOD speak from the mountain, but she “HEARD” about their GOD.

Ruth – a Moabite who marries a son of Naomi and Elimelech. She didn’t know GOD for herself; she was just smart enough to realize that Naomi’s GOD delivered. HE wasn’t the type of GOD who you sacrificed to and didn’t act. THEIR GOD was a GOD of Action.

Naaman’s Servant Girl – a little girl who was taken captive from Israel. This shows that GOD will orchestrate bringing HIS WORD into a dark situation not to punish the little girl, but to put HIMSELF into someone’s situation. He will bring about HIS righteousness out of an unrighteous situation.

Naaman – a commander of an army who was greatly respected and had found favor with his king. He was also suffering from leprosy. Why he listened to that little girl, we will never know, but he had some type of faith in that servant girls’ GOD.

People are watching us, so-called believers, to see if “we” believe in GOD as much as we say we do. When those moments come around in our lives to where we physically need GOD and need HIM to show up big in our lives, people are watching us.

This is when they are at their most vulnerable, when “we” are being tried. Isn’t that funny? We are the ones going through. We are the ones in trouble. We are the ones who are scared, hurt, struggling, but their spirits and salvation are on the line. If we stumble in our faith, their ability to believe is shaken. We have to be totally sold out for GOD and walk in complete victory and not just “a hopin’ and a wishin’. We must be confident in GOD’s WORD.

There are also times when we ourselves doubt GOD and HIS WORD. That’s when you have to throw out one of those, “Lord, help my unbelief.” Help me see past my troubles; Help me see past my insecurities, my trials, my suffering. Help me look past all of those to where you are.

And GOD will show up even then. Even then, even through our doubt GOD will still look beyond it deepin our hearts and perform HIS WORD. Almost as if to say, “Baby girl, I know you don’t see me fixing this, but let me show you.”

But the funny thing is, what are the watchers saying? Do they say their GOD bless them anyway or are they saying you sure were lucky? Because for them, they saw that you weren’t in belief, so it had to be luck and not GOD.

Think about all HE has brought you through. Going through it, you couldn’t see the end of it. We couldn’t see how HE would do it. We couldn’t see when HE would do it. But HE did. The hardest part in all of it was the “going through”.

The Psalms 23, which we have all memorized at some time in our lives is scripture that speaks to every area and every obstacle in our life. Let this bless you. Let it minister to you.

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He makes me lie down in green pastures.
He leads me beside still waters.
He restores my soul.
He leads me in paths of righteousness
for his name’s sake.
Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies;
you anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me
all the days of my life,
and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord

Be Blessed!


Happy 2015!

Happy New Year!

It is officially 2015. This is the first week of 2015. A new year!

See today as a starting point. You are standing on GO looking out upon 364 more days upon which you can make your mark.

The successes of 2014 are but a memory. Bask in them. Remember the joy they brought, but desire for more.

The failures of 2014 should be bundled up and buried deep, never to be seen, heard, or felt again. Learn from them and grow.

Embark on your own little quest. And realize that as you march towards your goals there will be opposition.

You may encounter difficulties, but don’t quit.

Roll up your sleeves and dig in.

Push through challenges.

Challenge your inner quitter.

Align yourself with those headed in the same direction you wish to go. Mentorship is powerful!

Proclaim, don’t complain.

Decree, don’t beg.

And enjoy the journey knowing that one day you’ll be able to help someone else with the knowledge you acquired.

Be blessed.


The Patience of GOD

I heard someone talking recently about 'Perfect Patience'. From a biblical perspective we need to first understand what “perfect patience" looks like. Because the truth is, people aren’t patient and really have no concept of patience when you compare us to GOD our Father.

The first example of the patience of GOD is revealed in Genesis. Let’s go to Genesis 3:15 where He made a promise to satan: And I will put enmity between thee and the woman, and between thy seed and her seed; it shall bruise thy head, and thou shalt bruise his heel.

We know that GOD is referring to the crucifixion and the resurrection of Jesus Christ. How long was did it take until this promise was realized? We know that it is between 4,000 and 10,000 years. That’s a long time for GOD to wait to see HIS WORD fulfill. That is the perfect patience of GOD.  

We can also see the “perfect patience” of GOD when HE spoke to Abram and told him in Genesis 12:2: And I will make of thee a great nation,and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing:, then GOD said after Abram was obedient in Genesis 13:16, And I will make thy seed as the dust of the earth: so that if a man can number the dust of the earth, then shall thy seed also be numbered. 

All of these promises we know that GOD fulfilled and did so in a way that must have frustrated Abram, because all of these things were carried out in GOD’s time, not men. When HE said that HE would “make thy name great”, we know that to be fact because when we talk about Abraham we talk of him in the context of GOD himself identifying who HE was as the “GOD of Abraham, the GOD of Isaac, and the GOD of Jacob.” We know Abraham as the father of nations. Abraham himself is a major figure in Judaism, Christianity, and Islam. He is the father of Israel through his son Isaac, and in Islam he is the prophet and ancestor of Mohammed through his son Ishmael. GOD himself preached the Gospel of the Kingdom to Abram first.  

Gal 3:6 Even as Abraham believed God, and it was accounted to him for righteousness. 
Gal 3:7 Know ye therefore that they which are of faith, the same are the children of Abraham. 
Gal 3:8 And the scripture, foreseeing that God would justify the heathen through faith, preached before the gospel unto Abraham, saying, In thee shall all nations be blessed. 
Gal 3:9 So then they which be of faith are blessed with faithful Abraham. 

We probably include Abraham in many of our prayers, claiming that Abrahams’ blessings are ours, realigning our very bloodline, linking it to his. Scripturally let us look at Galatians. It says Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us: for it is written, Cursed is every one that hangeth on a tree: 

Gal 3:14 That the blessing of Abraham might come on the Gentiles through Jesus Christ; that we might receive the promise of the Spirit through faith. 
Gal 3:15 Brethren, I speak after the manner of men; Though it be but a man's covenant, yet if it be confirmed, no man disannulleth, or addeth thereto. 
Gal 3:16 Now to Abraham and his seed were the promises made. He saith not, And to seeds, as of many; but as of one, And to thy seed, which is Christ. 
Gal 3:17 And this I say, that the covenant, that was confirmed before of God in Christ, the law, which was four hundred and thirty years after, cannot disannul, that it should make the promise of none effect. 
Gal 3:18 For if the inheritance be of the law, it is no more of promise: but God gave it to Abraham by promise. 
Gal 3:19 Wherefore then serveth the law? It was added because of transgressions, till the seed should come to whom the promise was made; and it was ordained by angels in the hand of a mediator.

We have so many examples of GOD’s patience. But what happens when that patience wears thin? GOD is the perfect example of patience, but even HE can’t be patient forever. 

God's Patience
by David G. Bancroft
I wonder about God's patience wearing thin
with all that HE sees below HIM
beyond all doing right for those in need,
repenting for their misdeeds,
holding HIM high in esteem,
knowing HE is supreme.

It is those HE sees who purposely ignore,
for selfish reasons including personal gain,
one or more
of HIS ten laws that all should strive to maintain.

It is those HE sees acting falsely in HIS name,
never accepting any blame,
no matter how bloody or deadly the end,
resolutely unwilling to make amends.

It is those HE sees under Satan's hold,
corrupting the innocent young in evil's mold,
spreading falsehoods so bold,
causing pain and suffering untold. 
I wonder when
God's patience will wear thin,
causing the return of HIS Son
to have HIS will be done!

David G. Bancroft
Copyright © 2004
All Rights Reserved

When it comes to patience we have the perfect example. What have you learned through your walk with GOD about patience?

Make Room For Your Blessing

2 Chronicles 4:10

Jabez called upon the God of Israel, saying, “Oh that you would bless me and enlarge my border, and that your hand might be with me, and that you would keep me from harm so that it might not bring me pain!” And God granted what he asked

 Years ago you couldn’t walk a foot without seeing the Jabez prayer plastered all over every christian store in America. It was written on coasters, pencils, plaques, hanging from pendants, and stenciled onto artwork. It was EVERYWHERE!

But I was a little late to the party and just watched the hoopla from a safe distance. I remember reading the scripture, but for whatever reason I didn’t pray the prayer over my life. Truthfully, I was going through my whole ‘Prosperity Aversion’ season. By that I mean I had purposed it in my heart that a prosperity focused ministry was wrong. (I’m not against any ministry, I just believe in a more balanced teaching.)

Recently, my husband Derrick and I were talking about favor. And he said something that was interesting (He’s a really interesting thought provoking guy. Check him out @ www.derrickday.com). He said, “You have to make room for your blessing”. And yet it sounds so simple, but it’s so true. Why are you asking GOD to bless you, to enlarge your border if you haven’t made room for that blessing in your life?

The word bless means to proclaim or make holy also, to request GOD to bestow divine favor upon. The Bible has over 470 mentions of the word bless and it’s derivatives (blessed, blessing, and blessings). And I didn’t add up the various synonyms you find for the word bless (exalt, praise etc.) Compare that to the 173 times we see the word curse and it’s derivatives (cursed, cursing, and cursings) and you’ll see the importance of the word.

Most of us skip right over the first definition, but skid to a stop and rest on the second part. I believe that it is important to embrace the definition in its entirety. Just as often as we ask GOD to bestow his divine favor upon us, we must proclaim His blessings upon others. Those of us in the body sometimes act as if we can’t do two things at once. I’m not telling you to pat your head and rub your stomach at the same time (I struggle with this). Only to embrace the word and practice it wholeheartedly.

I digress…

Jabez asked GOD, “…bless me and enlarge my border, and that your hand might be with me, and that you would keep me from harm so that it might not bring me pain!”

What does that mean? Bestow divine favor upon my life. Divine favor is the tangible evidence that GOD approves of you. He is pleased with you, your words and actions. Divine favor is life changing. Divine favor is earth shattering.

When I think of divine favor I think of Abraham. Genesis 12:1 chronicles the beginning of Abram’s journey. “Now the Lord had said unto Abram, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto a land that I will show thee: 2 And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing: 3 And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be bless.

GOD bestowed blessings upon blessings on Abram. Why? Hebrews 11:8 says, “By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should have receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, not knowing whither he went.” Abram was faithful, obedient, and trusting. Abram wasn’t church folk. He wasn’t raised believing in GOD. He was a pagan. But…when GOD made Himself known to Abram, he embraced Him. He loved GOD and taught his family to love Him, without knowing church, or the perfect prayer, or hours in a prayer closet. Like Abram, we must fully embrace GOD. Live faithfully. Be obedient. Trust GOD. And lastly…but most important, Love GOD.

NOTE – Abraham and Lot had to part company because their combined substance was too much to be contained in one place – they had to split up for Abram to continue to be blessed. Abraham had to send Hagar and Ishmael away to make room for Abraham’s blessing to increase. Indeed, Abraham was moved to sacrifice his son because he believed this was necessary for God to increase his blessing.

When I think of divine favor I think of Isaac, and Jacob, and Joseph, and Moses, and David, and…I could go on and on. These were men. Flawed men who all had the same thing in common. They loved GOD. They were faithful. They were obedient. And they trusted GOD. And they walked in divine favor.

NOTE – these men all had to do things that involved making room.

GOD blessed them, he enlarged their territory/borders, and His hands was upon them, keeping them from harm. They were blessed and the evidence of GOD’s favor was upon their life. Did they escape physical harm from others? Yes. Did they escape drama? Weeeellll, that was something totally different. GOD didn’t put them through drama. They created their own. Abram had a baby mama – his own doing. Isaac favored one child over another to such an extent that he created an environment of jealousy and manipulation. Jacob was a liar, and a manipulator, and he unconsciously treated his older sons’ the same way his father had treated him by favoring Joseph. Moses didn’t fully trust GOD in the beginning. And David fell in love with another mans’ wife and sent him off to die. I said all that to say, that we are all susceptible to self-inflicted injuries. GOD can’t protect us from ourselves.

What I want you to understand is that when you pray the Jabez prayer or any prayer asking for/proclaiming prosperity and/or favor over your life, you have to be prepared for change. Matthew 9:17 says, “Neither do men put new wine into old bottles: else the bottles break, and the wine runneth out, and the bottles perish: but they put new wine into new bottles, and both are preserved.”

Just as Jabez asked GOD to expand his physical borders, we must be prepared to expand our mental borders. You can’t expect to stay in the same place, physically or mentally. Are you ready for that blessing? Have you made room in your life for change? Because that’s what happens. Things change. Your finances will definitely change. Sometimes your address will change. Your connections may change. And attitudes around you may change. Don’t be afraid of change. Learn to embrace it. Roll with the punches.

Live faithfully.

Be obedient.

Trust GOD.

Love GOD.

Expand the borders of your mind.

And lastly…

Expect change.



Who You Wit?

Matthew 28:20

…I am with you always, even unto the end of the world.


Years ago a comedian would burst out on stage and yell to the audience, “Who you wit?” To which they would yell the same phrase back to him. This became one of his trademarks. So much so that it was incorporated into his hit television show. But the roots of this now urbanized phrase runs much, much deeper. Throughout mans history, we have always desired to differentiate between our friends and our enemies. In days long past, soldiers/sentries would ask a stranger to identify themselves.


To gauge their loyalties. Who do you serve? Whose side are you on? This hasn’t changed. We are still asking. “Who you wit?” With whom do you associate? Neighborhood. Political party affiliation. College. Sports teams. Religion.

Again, why?

Because our innate desire is to belong. We want to feel like we are a part of something bigger than ourselves. We desire communion. We crave connectivity. Even when we claim to be introverts or loners, we still align ourselves with a particular group.

And who do we align ourselves with? Typically people who look like us. People who think like us. Or people we want to look like (emulate).

But I’ve learned that we have to be careful. Why? Because aligning ourselves with a particular group will surely alienate you from those outside that group.

Who you wit?

I grew up in a small country town with a population that usually hovers at around 7,000 strong. And as a minority, my associated groups was always much, much smaller. And what I saw time and time again were people graduating and moving away and coming back different. Some much different, others completely unrecognizable. Why?

Because once the boundaries are removed, our previous way of thinking is unbridled and if we aren’t careful we are impressed by/ influenced by whatever group we latch onto. We can all identify with this. Religions change. World views change. Political affiliations change. We change.

Is that always a bad thing? No. Is that always a good thing? No. But the change comes along because we were never confident in who we were to begin with. One or two things happen. We were never confident in ourselves, or Somewhere our confidence became shaken, so then does our identity.

Who you wit?

I was raised a Baptist. Attending church several times a week, from birth. But once I graduated from high school I didn’t attend church on a regular basis until well into my 30’s.

Why you may ask?

Because I felt burned out. I had seen and heard things in the church that disillusioned me from a very early age. I’ve always been entirely too observant, a people watcher. Emotionally over-sensitive to true feelings. I saw the hate behind the smiles and the lies behind the eyes. And I struggled with reconciling the truth with the fiction of church folk.

But, fortunately for me I was blessed with an amazing mentor, my grandmother. She had a way of separating the truth from the bovine effluvia. She knew what I saw and her desire was for me to understand that GOD is GOD and man is man. Man is flawed, but GOD is perfect. She showed me a loving GOD. She showed me that regardless of how church folk acted, GOD was still in control.

And so even though I stepped away from it for awhile, I still knew who I was and whose I was. I knew GOD. And in knowing Him, this protected me from the many other religions of the world.

I served a loving GOD, so I didn’t have to search for inner peace. The God I served created all, so I didn’t question creationism. I studied history, so I didn’t give credence to the concept of a Hollywood-esque Christ. The Holy Spirit within me, made itself known to me at a pivotal time in my life, so I was always sensitive to Him.

Who you wit?

I learned to stand with GOD because He stands with me. Isaiah 41:10 says, “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

Those words are a comfort to me. Why? Because I’m connected. To who? A loving God. A loving Father who confirms over and over again His love and affection for me. He confirms over and over again His commitment to me. He confirms over and over again His desire to see me succeed and excel.

Who you wit?

I learned that I wasn’t alone and found peace in the journey. Matthew 28:20 says, “…And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age.” Regardless of my current friend count. Regardless of how many people call me or drop in to see me. I learned that I was connected to someone. That someone had my back. Romans 8:31 says, “If GOD be for us, who can be against us?”

Who you wit?

I learned that I have to be careful of my associations. I am careful to not align myself with any one group. (Except for the Cowboys. I bleed silver and blue.) I don’t belong to any one political party because I believe that no one party can define my beliefs. I don’t align myself with a socio-economic group because I’ve lived both. I was raised in a single parent household with little money and am now raising my children with my husband in a middle class lifestyle. I identify with both, therefore I am conscious of the struggles that occur within both groups and could never align myself with one, thereby alienating the other.

Who you wit?

I feel blessed that my friendships look like my childrens’. Think about it. If we leave our children alone and let them grow and develop friendships unchecked, they are always multi-cultural/ethnic and diverse. But what we tend to do is surround ourselves with people that look like us and think like us. And then we force our children, unknowingly I hope, to align themselves the same way we are aligned. We change them, instead of allowing them to grow naturally and develop on their own. So their friends, in turn, look like them and think like them.

Leave them alone. Encourage their friendships. Kids don’t know color. They only know that this is my friend. Period. Get out of your comfort zone and get to know the parents. When you embrace others your perception changes. You become more sensitive to the things you say. You become more sensitive to racism and bigotry. You become more sensitive to the truth of the world. The worlds’ goal is to divide and conquer. We have to stop playing that game. Stop allowing the world to dictate to us our affiliations. At the end of the day we should love each other and want the best for each other. Period. The party lines become blurred and our connections become stronger. Love! Love! Love!

Who you wit?

It’s never too late to answer that question. It’s never too late to know GOD for the amazing Father that He is. It’s never too late to step into the power and authority that He destined for you. The Holy Spirit is there waiting to make Himself know to you. To reconnect you to a greater power source. To remove the veil from your eyes. To open your heart.

Who you wit?



Insider Trading

Most of us have heard the term Insider Trading before. We know it as a financial term. The working definition is the buying or selling of a security by someone who has access to material, nonpublic information about the security. I use the term insider trading all the time. My husband Derrick will tell you…I am relentless about it.


Because our words have creative power. Period. We were given that creative power by GOD, our Father.  Genesis 1:26-27 GOD states that He made man in His own ‘image’ and ‘likeness’. To be just like Him. He gave us dominion over our environment and to be able to do our job, He gave us abilities like his own. Which means we should be able to:

Think like GOD

Reason like GOD

Plan like GOD

Complete like GOD

We have creative power. Psalm 115:16,“The heaven, even the heavens, are the LORD’S: but the earth hath he given to the children of men.” But yet, we fail to realize our full potential.

How many of you…and you don’t have to admit this aloud. But how many of you start out your day like this:

Oh Lord, today I have to…I hate doing that.

Oh GOD, today is Monday. I hate Mondays and Mondays hate me.

Man, today I have to work with so-and-so…I hate working with her.

I have to take the car into the shop, they always over-charge me.

Ugh, I need to change the oil. That cap never comes off easy.

But wait, there’s more…

I can’t do this because…

This is always hard…

Every time I take one step forward…

The last time I tried to do this…

Ugh, I know it’s broken…

This is always so expensive…

The phone rings, before you even answer you’re thinking about what could be wrong…

Any of that sound familiar?

I know…we all do it. We fail to realize that not only do we have authority over our situation, but we are also feeding the devil with…Insider Information. We tell him right where to focus his attention. We let him know right where he can frustrate us.

We stand before him fully clothed in armor, but we point out the chinks. Imagine that. A soldier fully clothed in protective gear, but with bright red flashing signs that points out all of our vulnerable spots.

That’s basically what we do when we open our mouths.

Do you realize that the devil doesn’t create problems in your life? He only perverts and distorts. He is not a creator. He cannot create a situation. He can only pervert it. He can only distort it. He can only make it look worse than it really is.

Lucifer himself is a created being: Essentially the minster of music, but we make him equivalent to his creator. Ezekiel 28:13. Why do we do that? Why do we place him in such a place of authority? Let’s look at something. We need to differentiate him from GOD. We know that GOD is omnipotent, omniscient, and omnipresent; the devil is …busy. He’s none of these.

We know that GOD is spirit. Revelation 19:6 says And I heard as it were the voice of a great multitude, and as the voice of many waters, and as the voice of mighty thunderings, saying, Alleluia: for the Lord God omnipotent reigneth.

GOD is omnipotent. Omnipotent, in Greek means “All ruling” or Almighty. When we say GOD is Almighty (which we say often), we are standing firm in our belief that He has all power and all authority over His creations. And yes, Lucifer was created. Ezekiel 28 described him in all of his brilliance. But he was created. Understand that.

It says, “Thou hast been in Eden the garden of God; every precious stone was thy covering, the sardius, topaz, and the diamond, the beryl, the onyx, and the jasper, the sapphire, the emerald, and the carbuncle, and gold: the workmanship of thy tabrets and of thy pipes was prepared in thee in the day that thou wast created. Thou art the anointed cherub that covereth; and I have set thee so: thou wast upon the holy mountain of God; thou hast walked up and down in the midst of the stones of fire.”

GOD is omniscient…all by his lonesome. Omniscient means ‘perceiving all things’, having complete knowledge and understanding.

David had such an amazing revelation…such an amazing understanding of who GOD is.

He said “If I say, Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me, even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.”  Psalms 139:11. He says earlier in Psalms , “GOD knows the secrets of our heart.” Psalms 44:21

Even Paul says in Hebrews 4:13, “Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight. Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.” 

And lastly, GOD is omnipresent. He can be everywhere at the same time. David talks about this in Psalm 139: 7-10. David says, “Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast.”

Now let’s talk about satan.

It says in Job 1:6-7:

One day the angels came to present themselves before the Lord, and Satan also came with them. The Lord said to Satan, “Where have you come from?” Satan answered the Lord, “From roaming throughout the earth, going back and forth on it.” 

He has to walk back and forth on earth. Scripture shows that he is not omnipotent.  The devil is not equal to GOD and we have to stop imbibing him with our Creators powers. He’s not sitting up high, looking low. He doesn’t have a place of authority in our lives. He eavesdrops on us. Learning our weaknesses and our secret fears.

It shows us clearly twice in scripture that satan was fishing for information. Why? Because he did not know! In the very beginning he is skulking around the garden, looking for information. Let’s read Genesis 3:1-3

Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?”

The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’”

Do you see that? He had to ask Eve which tree was forbidden. She gave him insider information. Stop running your mouth to the devil.

Let’s go forward in scripture. Matthew 4:1-6

Then Jesus was led by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted[a] by the devil. After fasting for forty days and forty nights, he was hungry. The tempter came to him and said, ‘If you are the Son of God, tell these stones to become bread.’

Jesus answered, ‘It is written: “Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God.”[b]’

Then the devil took him to the holy city and set him on the highest point of the temple. ‘If you are the Son of God,’ he said, ‘throw yourself down. For it is written:

‘“He will command his angels concerning you,

    and they will lift you up in their hands,

    so that you will not strike your foot against a stone.”

Did you catch that? If you are… If you are… He asked Jesus twice if He was the Son of GOD. Why? Because HE DIDN’T KNOW FOR SURE! He didn’t know.

Satan does not know everything! We have to confirm stuff for him. Stop being an informant!

Let’s go back about 30-40 years…do you guys remember the party line?

I grew up in the country and we shared a phone line with our neighbors. So, sometimes you would be on the phone and you would notice a disturbance in the line. Usually, if it was an honest person…they would announce themselves and say something like…”Oh I didn’t know somebody was already on the line.” Or maybe they tell you that they have an emergency ask to use the line.

But sometimes, you’d notice a hollowness to your call and would know that somebody was on the other line…listening to your conversation. That’s the devil. He listens to your conversation.

Let’s go back to Job. We all know the story of Job. He was tested by GOD…NOT!

He was not tested by GOD because GOD doesn’t need to test us. He was tested by satan. Satan wanted Job to curse GOD.

Understand that satan is angry at GOD. Andrew Wommack has an awesome teaching on this. He believes that Lucifer and other angels were sent to Earth to serve as a blessing to Adam and Eve. Hebrews 1:14 says, “Are they not all ministering spirits, sent forth to minister for them who shall be heirs of salvation?”

But when Lucifer got there he became angry and jealous with all that GOD gave them. Remember GOD gave man ALL authority on Earth. That we were to rule Earth. Complete and utter authority.

Who knows? Maybe Lucifer wanted to take GOD’s place here on Earth in the hearts of man. Isaiah 14:13 says, “For thou hast said in thine heart, I will ascend into heaven, I will exalt my throne above the stars of God: I will sit also upon the mount of the congregation, in the sides of the north.”

He goes on to say, I will ascend above the heights of the clouds; I will be like the most High.”

And until the return of Jesus, he has been trying to work his program. But then, of course, Jesus came and took that authority back. Jesus came and spoke unto them, saying, “All power is given unto Me in Heaven and on earth. GO ye…that power and authority was gifted back to us as our inheritance. Matthew 28:18-19

Let’s go to Job 1:5 Early in the morning he would sacrifice a burnt offering for each of them, thinking, “Perhaps my children have sinned and cursed God in their hearts.” This was Job’s regular custom. Job was operating out of a place of fear, not faith. The devil knew right where to attack him.

We have to be mindful of our words. We have to remember that we have creative power. We get so carried away with things that we have a tendency to rush through something and before we know it we have completely doomed our situation.

I was talking to a friend recently and they said they were talking with their doctor and the doctor made a comment about them having cancer. This person said, “No. I don’t have cancer. My uterus has cancer.” You know who you are. Thank you so much for breathing that powerful WORD into my life.

When she said that…I was really just blown away. We have to differentiate our statements. Now, we have to submit facts under truth and not the other way around.

The fact may be that we have an ailment, but the truth says ‘By His stripes we are healed.”  Isaiah 53:5. That’s truth.

We have to learn to mimic GOD. GOD created all that we know with His words. Genesis says that In the beginning GOD created….Speak those things that are not, as if they were. Speak life. Speak positive. Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Proverbs 18:21

Before you start working on your car, say Lord I thank you that I have the mind of Christ. The words of Christ too, because sometimes we tend to mutter and say things we shouldn’t.

Before you start anything…speak the positive outcome, not the negative outcome.

When you wake up in the morning…speak life into your day. Talk about how you love Mondays…or Tuesdays…or Wednesdays…whatever day it is.

Say, Thank you Lord for that co-worker that normally works your nerves…pray for that person, speak positive about him/her.

Lord I thank you that you have given me supernatural wisdom and knowledge in all things.

Lord I thank you that you have given me the words to say.

Lord I thank you that all things work together for my good today. Start your day off right.

We need to be more like the Shunammite woman. I absolutely loved the story of Elisha and the Shunammite woman. 2Kings 4:8 tells the story.

Elisha travel through Shunem and whenever he was in the area he stayed with this wealthy woman. Her husband was older and she had no children. This was a woman who was content with her life. Elisha wanted to bless her, but she had no need for anything. So he told her that she would have a child, which it seemed, to be what her heart really desired.

The child grew and one day complained of his head hurting. His mother held him until he died. She took him to Elisha’s room and went to get him.

The husband asked her, ‘Why go to him now?’

“That’s all right,” she said. She held no conversation with her husband about the futility of the situation.

Elisha saw her coming and sent Gehazi, his servant to check on her, and again she said, “Everything is all right.” Never once did she speak the facts of what happened. Because the facts were that her child was dead. She pressed her way to the man of GOD and never once in that passage did she acknowledge the facts of the situation.

Her truth was…GOD knows my heart. He answered my unspoken prayers through his prophet Elisha. He will again answer my unspoken prayer through Elisha. She didn’t cry and lament when her child died. She didn’t cry and lament on her way to Elisha. She laid him in the bed of promise and petitioned the prophet directly.

That was Old Testament. We don’t have to petition our prophets. We don’t have to go searching for our pastor. We don’t have to lay before the Pope. Jesus gifted us back our authority.

We no longer petition. We proclaim.

We no longer beg. We decree.

Satan/Lucifier has no authority in our lives. Psalms 115:16 says, ‘The highest heavens belong to the Lord, but the earth he has given to mankind.’

Stop giving the devil insider information. We control the outcome of our day. Speak life and minimize the devils importance in your life. He should hold no importance. He should be of no significance.

Let’s pray:

Father GOD I thank you for your revelations. I thank you that as we go forth from this point on that we operate with all the authority and power that You originally intended. I thank you that the authority given to Adam and Eve manifest in our lives. That we speak with authority and creative intent. I thank you that we are conscious of our words and we walk with purpose in Your Son Jesus name. Amen.



When someone shows you who they are…

Maya Angelou said, “When someone shows you who they are believe them.”  That is something that I wish I had known years and YEARS ago.  That one quote changed my life.

I can’t tell you how many times I allowed someone’s words to dictate my understanding of their character.  Don’t listen.  Watch.

Watch how they treat those less fortunate than you.  Watch how they treat their family.  Their friends.  The waiter/waitress.  The doorman.

You will learn all you need to know by watching and tuning out their verbal advertisements of themselves.  We, not others, are our biggest promoters.

I’ve allowed that quote to govern my life from that point on.  And because of it I’ve been blessed to be surrounded by beautiful, loving people.  They love me.  They encourage me and when necessary they convict…In Love.

I don’t have the time or patience to surround myself with fake, processed friends.  It’s draining and emotionally suffocating.  And I’m too old for that.

Life is precious.  Our time left here on earth is precious and we don’t have the luxury of diluting our purpose with watered down personalities.